To Whom You Love ?

‘I Love You’. 3 particular words that can make all the difference in the world. Said by almost all human in this very planet in their native language or in this very language.

3 magic words. There is ‘I’, there is ‘Love’ and there is ‘You’.

The ‘I’ is of course us. Each of us. The ‘Love’ is the feeling we feel. And the ‘You’ is one we have feeling towards. So, we say ‘I Love You’ towards the ones we love. To let them know how we feel about them, and how much they mean to us.

If we notice on the structure of this 3 magic words, we would find the subject, the ‘I’, and the object, the ‘You’. And most of the time we act also per this structure. We bind ourselves as the subject or as the do-er. And the ones we love as the object or our doings, in this case our ‘Love’.

Often, or should I say always, we put some expectations in this words. For example, we often expect to be loved back, or simply to be acknowledged, to get the attention. Furthermore, sometimes we expect more, such as commitment and all.

The question is, is it really work that way ?

These past few months, I’m meddling with these 3 words. And when I put some expectations in it, I feel restless. And after I watch over this restlessness, I figure that the problem is in the expectations. I was so worry for them to be fulfilled or not, and it blurs the feeling of ‘Love’ itself.

Then I try, I learn to let it go. What to let go ? The ‘Love’ ? No. I try to let go the ‘whom’ I love. The ‘You’ is still there. Still it’s the 3 magic words, ‘I Love You’. And the person that I love is still there. But I am letting go the ‘object’ bind in the ‘You’ part. And as soon as I let it go, the expectations gone. Followed by the restlessness. Then the magic begins.

I feel like I am limitless. I feel the vastness of love, never ending love. You can’t feel anything but love. Just love. Only love.

The person we have love towards is still there, he/she will feel the love. But strangely, inside, it’s more about yourself. Restlessness change into fulfillment.

Turns out, ‘I Love You’ is act to love yourself. It’s an expression of our capability to love. And to feel its limitless within. No matter to whom we have love towards. Each one we love is actually ourself.

So, to whom you love ? Every single one of you and yourself.



~In the deep longing of Bhumi Mandala Kelana